The Importance of Finding Your Reset Button
January 30, 2017
You've been having a bad day!
It's been an extremely rough morning. Absolutely everything seems to be going wrong and it just keeps on coming at you full force with no signs of stopping. First, your coffee machine broke and then you forgot to leave enough time to scrape the ice off of your car, so you are running late. Your were wearing your favourite scarf when you left the house, but it's somehow dissappeared. A dog ran out in front of your car, leaving you both startled and scared, the children have been fighting since they woke up and piece of ice just flew up from under the wheel of the car in front of you and it must have had a rock in it because now you have a chip in your windshield. On their own, each of these incidents is pretty minor, but piled all toegther like this, they make for a crappy way to start your day!
If you are faced with a day like this, then your reaction to it all this can play a huge role in how the rest of your day will go. The more frustrated and upset you get, the more bad things seem to happen and the worse you are able to handle all the dificulties that are being thrown at you.
This is when you need a reset.
So how does this reset thing work exactly? Wouldn't it be great if there was a big friendly button (bonus points to the Whovians who catch that reference!) with the word RESET on it? Of course, we all know there isn't, but if you can figure out what works best for you to 'reset your day' then it can be almost as easy as that button.
You are going to need to figure out how to reset your day, week, month and maybe even your year. It's different for each of us and may even be different for you depending on what you are trying to reset, day, week etc.
Let me tell you how I tend to do my resets and then I'll give you some more ideas that you can explore to help discover your reset buttons.
If my morning is crap, and my little geeklings wake up too early and are climbing all over me while I'm trying to do my pilates and then refuse to eat breakfast and argue with each other instead, I can get incredibly grumpy and those are the days we end up rushing (running even) to catch the bus. Maybe my tea will spill and my computer will only spin that aggrevating coloured circle instead of load my video that I'd like to edit. So I decide to let it sit and go advance the laundry, only to find that I forgot to start it that morning because the little ones were distracting me. My blood starts to boil and I step on a lego.
I'm definitely in need of a reset. In this case, I've tried changing gears from video editing to laundry, but that didn't work, so this is when I bring out the big guns. I need to step back and take a minute. I'll put the kettle on, make a big strong cup of tea (milk, no sugar) and grab a bite of chocolate (Côte D'Or... man, I love living in Europe!) and my phone and give myself an extra 15 minute Instagram break. Seeing all those pretty pictures and simply sitting down and resting for a minute usually changes my mood enough so that I can jump back in and things will go more smoothly.
The key is to get out of the funk, to reset your mood and that will then reset your day.
Some funks will be harder to turn around than others.
This past month, I got the flu. Usually I bounce back after a few days when I get sick, but not this time. It was 3 weeks before I really got any energy back and was no longer taking 2 hour naps and going to bed at 9:30. That first day (last Monday) I felt like I had super-human energy, when really I was barely back to normal levels. I told my friend I felt that I could run a marathon, scrub the house with a toothbrush and then conquer the world! In this case, I rode that energy wave and the stuff I got done on Monday motivated me to keep going the rest of the week. I could have just as easily said to myself 'there's only a few days left of the month, maybe I should just wait and reset on February 1' but I didn't because I know myself and if I did that, I would fall deeper into my funk and would do nothing for the rest of the month and then come Feb. 1, I'd barely accomplish half of what I set out to do or even half of what I did last Monday because I would have got myself into the habit of under accomplishment.
I'm also going to pretend that February 1 is the beginning of the year and I'm going to spend the next few days filling up my planner with my goals for the year. This is my process video as I decorate my February monthly spread.
Can you relate to these scenarios? Are you someone who needs to reset by powering through? Or taking a nap?
There are lots of different ways that you can hit your reset button, but you need to find what will change your mood and therefore change your day, week, month. Here are some ideas:
Call a happy, glass half full, friend.
Spend 15 mins (or an entire afternoon if need be) crafting, reading, or doing whatever hobby makes you happy.
Take a nap.
Go for a walk.
Pet a cat or dog.
Play with your children/grandchildren.
Go on a date night.
Clean something, I like to scrub my kitchen to within an inch of it's life.
Go for coffee with a friend, or if you are an introvert like me, go through the Tim's drive thru and take it home).
Take a break and check Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest (with a time limit).
Make your favourite tea and light a candle (Have you seen the candles with rings inside? My new obsession!)
Do a tough workout.
Or go easy on yourself and do some nice stretches.
Take some photos of your favourite things around your house, neighbourhood, town. This helps to really notice and appreciate these things.
Listen to your favourite music.
Have a dance party for one, or many!
This is only a start. What makes you happy, what can turn your mood around? Let us know in the comments, because it could help turn someone else's mood around and reset their day too.